“KULZUM TO BE HAPPY YOU NEED A HUSBAND!”

If my grandma had her way I would be married right now to a sri lankan doctor/ engineer with 1 kid and a baby on the way. Since I turned 18 her mission in life has been to get me married.

In a way its sweet but for someone who is so cultured my grandma sure is sri lankan in her way of thinking about marriage and girls. Her favorite sentence to say to me is “kulzum to be happy you need a husband!” its cute until it becomes annoying and then there is screaming and crying and then a lot of im sorrys.

I did not grow up in sri lanka. I am not even sure I want to get married. I have made it very clear to my grandma I do not want to marry a sri lankan from sri lanka but over the years I have come to realize boys are boys no matter what country they are born and raised in. so basically my distaste in boys/men have spread to not just sri lankan boys/men but to ALL/most boys/men. My grandmother CLEARY doesn’t understand this and still I guess ignores what I say and STILL tries to find me a husband. I think now that she has taken it easy work wise and she has less to do (because she chooses to) she now has ample time to find me a “perfect match”.

I totally understand that my grandma grew up with the culture that promotes getting married young, making babies young, and staying home and being the perfect housewife. My grandma doesn’t even fit into this mold but still feels the need to make sure I do. My grandmother did get married young, made babies young and most importantly she started to work. True, it wasn’t by choice and it was out of necessity but she grew to love it. She is now an independent woman making her own money but still feels the need to get me married to a man “who will take care of me”

One would think I would learn to shut my mouth and just say no to every guy she thinks of introducing me to. But, no of course not because Im to cool for that. I have to make comments and snide remarks at everyone of the men. This upsets my grandmother and sends her into a frenzy of loud, screaming rants that I don’t understand because its in three languages.

I know she means well I just wish she would find a more presentable approach. All in all I have to either get with the program or once and for all let her know I aint having it because im running out of excuses